BEING BASIC, RUNNING AWAY & NEW MENTALITY |

Let's just take a minute to appreciate that it is SEPTEMBER 1st. I love September for many reasons... Mialyna's birthday is on the 13th, it means Autumn is coming, Pumpkin Spice Lattes are back (I am basic and I may or may not have one in my hand already), and I can bring out my Fall clothes

(yay sweater weather and knee high boots!!). In this case, I'll be buying all new Fall clothes since I got rid of almost everything haha. I actually started the shopping yesterday and I spent way too much on cute things.. but hey, I deserve it! Oh- and I started my Fall home decor that I will share with you all soon! Anyways, now that I paid my respect to the arrival of September and my excitement for Fall...let's move on to my little life update.

Personally, these are my favourite posts because they are little (or long) diary entries that help me reflect on what's going on, get excited, and express myself. Lately, I have been having this urge to do something spontaneous and adventurous. I have this need to travel, experience new things, and get out of my comfort zone. This is not unusual for me as I tend to go through these phases where I really like to push myself out of my little bubble. So, yesterday I was looking up trips and I was literally 5 seconds away from booking a 4 day trip to Cuba that left tomorrow... it was a great price, great hotel, and perfect time considering it's a long weekend. But, I didn't end up actually booking because the people I was planning to go with couldn't get the vacation time booked off, which sucked! However, I still plan to do something this weekend hopefully that will be fun...hmmm ! Also, next weekend I have a girls night away in Toronto with a good girlfriend of mine- which should be a lot of fun and interesting as well! Plus, a bachelorette party in Prince Edward County at the end of the month and hopefully a little getaway with Mialyna for her birthday. The Cuba trip may have not worked out for this weekend, but I am determined to make it work before the end of the year or early next- cause heck, why not? I am determined to run away to a beautiful place sooner than later since I can't wait until the trip we have planned in July.

Also- with this urge to travel and get out of my bubble I have also noticed a huge change in my mentality and way of thinking. I finally feel like I had that "light bulb moment". It was actually a tweet on Twitter that got me thinking. It went something like this - " So many girls fall in love with the "wrong" guys because the wrong guys say the "right" things."

If you know anything about me it is that I am a hopeless romantic who has watched way too many romantic comedies and have imagined having this life I have built in my head for so long. I have realized now that it is all complete bullshit to say the least. Life isn't like the movies and this picture I dreamed up in my head has been created on unrealistic expectations. All of these things just clouded my judgement and made me go down some paths I wish I avoided. I am sure most woman have been in these shoes where they have this idea of the "perfect life" or "perfect man" in their head based on things we see on social media, in the movies, and in books. Today, I'm telling you we need to throw those ideas out the window and find our own perfect. This was hard for me, but I finally did it. I'm tired of looking at the wrong qualities, listening to a man's words (sweet talk) and getting so wrapped up in all the cute things they do. I realized that it usually clouds my judgement and I end up missing huge warning signs. I have also realized that looking at all these things or seeking men who have the qualities I wanted at one point have also put "blinders" on me in a sense. I overlooked so many good people, I overlooked others actions that were far more significant and showed more potential in the long run than a cute poem, I pretty much let people take advantage of me and walk all over me just because they fed me some cute words and had some of the characteristic I thought I wanted. I'm pretty sure everyone can relate to getting caught up in the words and physical characteristics of someone (in my case I've done this with many men and even with friends) at one point when we really shouldn't have. This is something I am going to stop... from now on....

• I am going to start looking at the bigger picture instead of getting caught up in the smaller things

• I'm going to look at people's actions instead of words

• I'm going to look at the person's heart, mentality, morals, reactions to situations, and overall what kind of person they are instead of what they look like on the outside

• I am going to go in and see everything and not overlook the caution signs along the way

• I'm going to look at who brought these people up and who they surround themselves with because that is a huge indicator of who they are

This goes for everyone I look at from now (not just intimate relationships). I don't want to be the girl who missed out on a great person because I didn't give them a chance. I'm tired of wasting too much time on the wrong people and not enough time on the good ones.

I feel like I am also a person with morals and good judgement, but I am also not perfect and have made my fair share of mistakes. But, I've realized a lot lately and I know I want to make a change and a stand. I am making a commitment to continue to treat people the way I want to be treated and not tolerate others who are doing wrong whether it is to me or anyone else. I want to stay away from drama, bad situations, immaturity, and disrespect. If that means cutting people out of my life - I'll be okay with it. I'm someone who believes strongly in karma. So, even if you have done things you aren't proud of in the past - make the change TODAY. Start treating people right, don't tolerate any bad or inappropriate behaviour, and hold yourself accountable for your actions. Don't toss the blame on others, don't focus on your own pain only , and don't do what you wouldn't like done to you.

Don't be the person who is okay with someone talking behind someone's back, don't be the person out with someone when they are in a relationship, don't be okay with someone who lies, don't be okay with someone who doesn't value you.

I'm not only doing this for me, but also for Mialyna. I want her to make a positive impact on this world, surround herself with good people who respect her and others, and I don't want her to be swayed by bullshit.

Sorry if it all sounds a bit "preachy", but what better time to make a change than now? So, kick start your weekend by changing your mentality for the better. Start seeing the good people, call out the fakes, and don't put up with crap! Trust me these changes are going to attract positive vibes, bring the RIGHT people into your life, and filter out the negative ones.

Have an amazing Friday!!

Until next time,

Alysia xo

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